{"id":905,"date":"2016-08-02T13:53:57","date_gmt":"2016-08-02T13:53:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/fss\/?p=905"},"modified":"2016-08-02T13:53:57","modified_gmt":"2016-08-02T13:53:57","slug":"ce-quil-faut-dire-et-ce-quil-faut-eviter-honnetement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/ce-quil-faut-dire-et-ce-quil-faut-eviter-honnetement\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce qu&rsquo;il faut dire &#8211; et ce qu&rsquo;il faut \u00e9viter. Honn\u00eatement??"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[1e partie: <a href=\"http:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/fss\/?p=903\">Comment \u00e7a va? Honn\u00eatement??<\/a>]<\/p>\n<p>[2e partie: <a href=\"http:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/fss\/?p=904\">Que dire si on n&rsquo;a rien \u00e0 se dire&#8230; <\/a>]<\/p>\n<p>Celle-ci est la 3e partie<\/p>\n<p>L&rsquo;honn\u00eatet\u00e9 est essentielle dans notre culture &#8211; et cdependant il ne faut pas n\u00e9cessairement tout se dire, ni toujours dire la v\u00e9rit\u00e9, toute la v\u00e9rit\u00e9. Je vous invite \u00e0 une r\u00e9flexion linguistique et pratique (non psychologique, par exemple).<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Le manque d&rsquo;honn\u00eatet\u00e9 d\u00e9truit la confiance qui est \u00e0 la base de toute communication, et plus encore une relation de soin.<\/li>\n<li>Si on d\u00e9cide de ne pas dire (d\u00e9tourner, taire, &#8230;) la v\u00e9rit\u00e9, il faut se demander pourquoi &#8211; et si cet argument est valable.<\/li>\n<li>Tout acte de parole entra\u00eene des cons\u00e9quences: saluer ou ne pas saluer, dire ou ne pas dire la v\u00e9rit\u00e9, la fa\u00e7on de le dire ou de ne pas le dire.<\/li>\n<li>Les mots peuvent \u00eatre per\u00e7us comme des couteaux. Par exemple\n<ul>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Comment allons-nous?\u00a0\u00bb alors qu&rsquo;il n&rsquo;y pas le m\u00eame nous d&rsquo;un c\u00f4t\u00e9 et de l&rsquo;autre de la relation de soin, avec une personne qui se sent ou sait malade ou vieux ou &#8230; et l&rsquo;autre qui est en pleine forme<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Moi aussi &#8230;\u00a0\u00bb qui coupe le communication, qui signale irr\u00e9mdiablement que l&rsquo;\u00e9coute n&rsquo;existe plus.<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0C&rsquo;est vous qui le dites\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; si le patient cherche ses rep\u00e8res, il ne faut pas lui jeter \u00e0 la figure les mots qu&rsquo;il utilise comme b\u00e9quille<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Je sais comment vous vous sentez\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; car ce n&rsquo;est simplement pas vrai.<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Oubliez &#8230;; essayez &#8230;\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; car vous, vous savez??<\/li>\n<li>Rien &#8211; car le silence est pire que tout<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>La honn\u00eatet\u00e9 fait partie de la gentillesse qui s&rsquo;entend bien.<\/li>\n<li>Les patients appr\u00e9cient les gestes (\u00e0 c\u00f4t\u00e9 des mots), l&rsquo;\u00e9coute, la pr\u00e9sence.<\/li>\n<li>Parmi les phrases &lsquo;techniques&rsquo; \u00e0 \u00e9viter&#8230;\n<ul>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0\u00c7a ne fera pas mal\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; peut-\u00eatre que si, et que va-t-on dire la prochaine fois?<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0On cherche votre dossier\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; car un dossier, \u00e7a peut se perdre comme \u00e7a, sans crier gare?<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Ce ne sera rien de grave\u00a0\u00bb &#8211; \u00e7a, on ne le sait pas; c&rsquo;est ce qu&rsquo;on va voir<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab\u00a0Oups\u00a0\u00bb<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Voir par exemple ces publication inspir\u00e9es par des pratiques professionnelles:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>6 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Patient &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.physicianspractice.com\/patient-relations\/6-things-you-should-never-say-patient\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.physicianspractice.com\/patient-relations\/6-things-you-should-never-say-patient<\/a><\/li>\n<li>8 Things to Never Say to a Patient &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/allhealthcare.monster.com\/benefits\/articles\/3715-8-things-to-never-say-to-a-patient\" class=\"autohyperlink\">allhealthcare.monster.com\/benefits\/articles\/3715-8-things-to-never-say-to-a-patient<\/a><\/li>\n<li>10 cosas que no se le deben decir a un paciente con fibromialgia &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/fibromialgico.blogspot.be\/2012\/04\/10-cosas-que-no-se-le-deben-decir-un.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">fibromialgico.blogspot.be\/2012\/04\/10-cosas-que-no-se-le-deben-decir-un.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>10 Things Cancer Patients Love to Hear &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.whatnext.com\/blog\/posts\/10-things-cancer-patients-love-to-hear\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.whatnext.com\/blog\/posts\/10-things-cancer-patients-love-to-hear<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Comment \u00eatre honn\u00eate sans \u00eatre dur &#8211;\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/fr.wikihow.com\/%C3%AAtre-honn%C3%AAte-sans-%C3%AAtre-dur\" class=\"autohyperlink\">fr.wikihow.com\/%C3%AAtre-honn%C3%AAte-sans-%C3%AAtre-dur<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t Say This to a Cancer Patient &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/dan-duffy\/what-not-to-say-to-a-canc_b_3578732.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.huffingtonpost.com\/dan-duffy\/what-not-to-say-to-a-canc_b_3578732.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>If you haven\u2019t got anything nice to say\u2026 &#8211;\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/swanny.me\/2016\/01\/02\/if-you-havent-got-anything-nice-to-say\/\" class=\"autohyperlink\">swanny.me\/2016\/01\/02\/if-you-havent-got-anything-nice-to-say\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>&lsquo;I&rsquo;m here for you&rsquo;: What to say (and not say) to a cancer patient &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.today.com\/health\/what-say-not-say-cancer-patient-2D80213767\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.today.com\/health\/what-say-not-say-cancer-patient-2D80213767<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Outpatient Management of Depression &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.preskorn.com\/books\/omd_s4.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.preskorn.com\/books\/omd_s4.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Qu\u00e9 decir y qu\u00e9 no a un paciente con c\u00e1ncer &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.semana.com\/vida-moderna\/articulo\/que-decir-y-que-no-a-un-paciente-con-cancer\/468153\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.semana.com\/vida-moderna\/articulo\/que-decir-y-que-no-a-un-paciente-con-cancer\/468153<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Say what? 8 things you shouldn&rsquo;t &#8211; or should &#8211; say to a cancer patient &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fredhutch.org\/en\/news\/center-news\/2013\/10\/what-not-to-say-to-a-cancer-patient.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.fredhutch.org\/en\/news\/center-news\/2013\/10\/what-not-to-say-to-a-cancer-patient.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who Has Cancer &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/beauty\/things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-who-has-cancer-93414490137.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.yahoo.com\/beauty\/things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-who-has-cancer-93414490137.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>What to say to a newly diagnosed cancer patient &#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.kevinmd.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/newly-diagnosed-cancer-patient.html\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.kevinmd.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/newly-diagnosed-cancer-patient.html<\/a><\/li>\n<li>What to Say When Someone Is Diagnosed With Cancer &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywell.com\/what-to-say-when-someone-is-diagnosed-with-cancer-2252072\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.verywell.com\/what-to-say-when-someone-is-diagnosed-with-cancer-2252072<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Words of Comfort: What to Say When Someone is Dying &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.agingcare.com\/Articles\/say-to-someone-who-is-dying-148641.htm\" class=\"autohyperlink\">www.agingcare.com\/Articles\/say-to-someone-who-is-dying-148641.htm<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[1e partie: Comment \u00e7a va? Honn\u00eatement??] [2e partie: Que dire si on n&rsquo;a rien \u00e0 se dire&#8230; ] Celle-ci est la 3e partie L&rsquo;honn\u00eatet\u00e9 est essentielle dans notre culture &#8211; et cdependant il ne faut pas n\u00e9cessairement tout se dire, ni toujours dire la v\u00e9rit\u00e9, toute la v\u00e9rit\u00e9. Je vous<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_wp_rev_ctl_limit":""},"categories":[31,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-905","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication","category-doutesetquestions"],"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-08-28 12:33:02","action":"delete","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/905","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=905"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/905\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=905"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=905"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hlrnet.com\/sites\/alt128\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=905"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}